“Fall seven times, stand up eight .” – A Japanese proverb
Thank you for taking the time to check in our family. The first thing to know is that we are all HEALTHY and HAPPY. That, in itself, is a reason to be grateful. Yes, our family planning isn’t going as expected, but we haven’t been handed anything that we can’t handle. We are ELATED to start this journey and strongly believe this is what we are supposed to be doing. There is a child out there that need a Dad, Mom, & Sister and we are happy to provide a forever home for a child that doesn’t have one. We wanted to start this blog so that everyone was on the same page with every step of what’s going on. We welcome questions and comments and would LOVE to hear from you!
Here is how we got to this point. We had lost two pregnancies very early on before we were pregnant with Collins. We didn’t get our hopes up about having this pregnancy go to term. We were working with an amazing Doctor who discovered why we kept having issues. She put me on a few meds and we left hopeful. A month later, we got a positive pregnancy test. We were surprised but excited! We went to the doctor about a week later to get an ultrasound and see how the pregnancy was progressing. It was immediately obvious that something wasn’t right. Our doctor told us that she couldn’t find a heartbeat. To say that we were crushed was an understatement. We couldn’t believe this was happening again. Not a third time. She sent us across the street to the hospital just to confirm her diagnosis. This ultrasound tech was as excited as we were to tell us that SHE FOUND THE HEARTBEAT. Happy happy tears. It turned out that I simply wasn’t as far along as they thought due to the medication I was taking. We went on to have a fairly easy pregnancy and in the end we had a healthy 8 pound baby names Collins. Best. Day. Ever.
When Collins was a year old, we decided to try and have another baby. After 6 months, we weren’t pregnant. We saw a fertility doctor here in Lexington who explained to us all of our options. Most of those options cost thousands of dollars and not a one was guaranteed to work. He put me on the same medicine I had before, but a year later, we were still not pregnant. At this point, we had to had to take a step back. We decided that I would come off the medicine and give my body a break. 12 months on fertility medicine isn’t fun. Every month we told oursleves that this is “the” month and every month we were disappointed. We both just needed a break. So, for the past 6 months or so, we have been gathering information and deciding how to move forward.
After speaking to several people involved with Kentucky’s foster system (attorney’s, case workers, other foster parents) we decided that this is the route that is best for us right now. We LOVE children. We know that there are a ton of kids out there that could very well become a part of our family. We know that it can be heartbreaking and we may not be tough enough to get to the point where we can adopt. We understand that this isn’t going to be easy. We start our classes in February. We may go and leave there completely at ease and sure we are doing the right thing for our family. We may leave with more questions and start developing some doubts if this is really for us. We may go to the meeting and decide against it all together. We just don’t know. That’s the hard part.
So, that’s the story. We are hopeful and optimistic! We will add some updates when we have them and hope that you all will wish us well and support the decision. If it works out or not, we need all the love, hugs, and prayers we can get. We would love to be: Gomez – Party of 4.